Right after I had my son, I felt as if someone else took my body and I was seeing everything from outside; so surreal. I questioned everything I learned about parenting, the treatment modalities I learned and the overall recommendations and suggestions I gave to many of the parents I worked before becoming a mom. I also questioned my worth, whether I really wanted to become a mom, my relationship with my husband, and my priorities and professional trajectory. I was so afraid to feel depressed or to have suicidal ideations. I was also afraid to open up about it and to seek help.
But I did seek help, and slowly but surely, the coin started to flip, and I started to see the lessons and new opportunities my adversities were teaching me. I was no longer feeling stuck, or letting my triggers handle me. I now see when I ride the shame/guilt trip way faster than before, and I feel much more confident of implementing the skills that help me retake my purpose-driven path. I am also aware of many of the ancestral patterns that are not serving me and my son, and I’m working toward making changes and healing us.
As I embarked in this journey, I reflected on my psychology practice and I wanted to create a space outside of it to reach people beyond the 1-on-1 weekly sessions. That’s when I decided to start the podcast, and also building a community, through providing workshops, online training and life events.
Will you join me?
I’m Dr. Lydiana Garcia, the Founder, and Owner of The Beyond Resilience Life. It is my honor to welcome you to the community.
I'm a Boricua psychologist in Los Angeles, CA. I have over 12 years of experience and training in the trauma field. As a psychologist I’ve learned about the importance of attachment in the early years and yet I felt so triggered and “out of control” of not being able to fully connect with my son. There was a lot of tears and questioning if I was even being a “good enough mom.” Whenever I tried to share my experience with others, they would somehow dismiss it by reiterating how good of a mom I was, and how my knowledge of psychology “should” make me a good mom. These comments would only heighten my anxiety and shame, and also made me feel so lonely.
The healing started to happen after I started somatic therapy and reflecting on the intergenerational trauma that was passed on to me by my parents… and then, I started getting the calling to start a podcast and a community to help people become aware of their intergenerational trauma, especially the ones that creep in and people have a hard time figuring out where that pattern, thoughts, feelings come from, and to apply somatic based coping skills to help regulate ourselves and then be able to re-write our stories filled with intergenerational wisdom.
I am so looking forward to embarking on this journey with you. And yes, it is still a journey for me, but that is what life is all about, right?